All in the Family
My MIL (mother-in-law) has a bicornuate uterus (BU). I found this out almost 4 years ago when DH and I announced to MIL and FIL (father-in-law) that we were going to adopt and how I only had half a uterus. Although it has crossed my mind to pick MIL's brain about her BU, she is a very conservative woman and I just don't have the relationship with her that I would feel completely comfortable discussing her uterus and reproductive history with her. DH and his younger sister are 9 years apart. At some point between them, MIL had a miscarriage. I have no idea if it took her a long time to conceive but based on the number of years between DH and SIL (sister-in-law), I am thinking it did.
I emailed MIL yesterday and told her that I was having a laparoscopy done, hopefully to rid myself of this horrible AF related pain. (I have still managed to keep our plans to do infertility treatments secret from our families.) She emailed me back this evening and I was quite surprised at the content of the email.
Turns out that my SIL also has a BU. I have so many questions but really don't feel I can ask them yet. Mainly, how does SIL even know? Most people don't get diagnosed with (most) uterine anomalies until they are TTC and having problems or during c-sections. SIL is a unmarried, Christian woman who I can almost guarantee has never even had sex. According to MIL, SIL is not really into discussing her uterus outside of family so I probably shouldn't even know about it and MIL isn't even sure that SIL fiance knows anything about it. Follow that?
More peculiar, SIL is apparently going to have surgery soon. I have no clue what kind of surgery. From what I gather, people with BUs don't typically have surgery. Surgery can be done to join the two halves, but usually it isn't done because the surgery can weaken the uterus and cause issues with carrying a pregnancy. So, I emailed MIL back and asked if perhaps SIL actually has a BU with a septum - which would be a BU/SU (bicornuate uterus/septate uterus combined). I hope she gets back to me because geez... I don't really know why this is bothering me so much... I guess I just don't want SIL to have surgery that she might not need.
I guess there has been some debate on whether Mullerian Anomalies are hereditary. I don't know any of my biological relatives that have one. (Instead I am blessed with Fertile Myrtle as a sister.) Interesting that MIL and SIL both have one.
P.S. Technically, I'm late. By about 24 hours. There was a time in my life that I would be totally panicking at this situation. There was a time in my life when I would be overjoyed with the possibility of what this could mean. Then there is now when I realize this means nothing, other than the impending doom of pain that will come when AF does show up.
I emailed MIL yesterday and told her that I was having a laparoscopy done, hopefully to rid myself of this horrible AF related pain. (I have still managed to keep our plans to do infertility treatments secret from our families.) She emailed me back this evening and I was quite surprised at the content of the email.
Turns out that my SIL also has a BU. I have so many questions but really don't feel I can ask them yet. Mainly, how does SIL even know? Most people don't get diagnosed with (most) uterine anomalies until they are TTC and having problems or during c-sections. SIL is a unmarried, Christian woman who I can almost guarantee has never even had sex. According to MIL, SIL is not really into discussing her uterus outside of family so I probably shouldn't even know about it and MIL isn't even sure that SIL fiance knows anything about it. Follow that?
More peculiar, SIL is apparently going to have surgery soon. I have no clue what kind of surgery. From what I gather, people with BUs don't typically have surgery. Surgery can be done to join the two halves, but usually it isn't done because the surgery can weaken the uterus and cause issues with carrying a pregnancy. So, I emailed MIL back and asked if perhaps SIL actually has a BU with a septum - which would be a BU/SU (bicornuate uterus/septate uterus combined). I hope she gets back to me because geez... I don't really know why this is bothering me so much... I guess I just don't want SIL to have surgery that she might not need.
I guess there has been some debate on whether Mullerian Anomalies are hereditary. I don't know any of my biological relatives that have one. (Instead I am blessed with Fertile Myrtle as a sister.) Interesting that MIL and SIL both have one.
P.S. Technically, I'm late. By about 24 hours. There was a time in my life that I would be totally panicking at this situation. There was a time in my life when I would be overjoyed with the possibility of what this could mean. Then there is now when I realize this means nothing, other than the impending doom of pain that will come when AF does show up.
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