The Club
I saw a girl I was friends with in high school posted on facebook that she is now pregnant. I gave her my congrats and that was that. Later I noticed another high school friend of mine, who is also currently pregnant, commented "Welcome to the club!" Not that I have ever been a big joiner of clubs, but it really seems like this whole pregnant thing is a "club". Not a very exclusive one at that, but one that I just can't seem to get invited to join.
This having given birth club just gets old. Everyone that I am surrounded by is in this club. They always seem to talk about it to. Get a group of moms together and sooner or later the conversation turns to how they felt during pregnancy, how long they were in labor, birth stories, and breastfeeding. Want to hear my birth story? The day DS1 was born, I had coffee with a friend and found out 6 weeks later that he had been born. I have absolutely no idea what I was doing the day DS2 was born and another 6 weeks went by before I knew about him too. I never had morning sickness. I never had pregnancy brain. I never had my water break. I never breastfed (although I have had lots and lots of dreams about breastfeeding my kids). I have never been in The Club.
I never say anything either. I do like to hear the stories my friends have to tell. I like to absorb the information in hopes that maybe some day it may be of use to me. I also secretly know that the story about how my kids came to me is way more complex, original, and fascinating than any of their stories. I am just saying it gets old. Sometimes I just want to yell out, "Seriously! Are we talking about THIS again?!?! Since the beginning of time people have given birth and you still think your story is sooooo amazing that we all want to hear about it??" Of course, if I ever give birth, everyone is going to hear the story over and over again and like it, dammit.
I am just waiting it out though. Someday all my friends will be done with their childbearing days and the conversation will shift away from constantly rehashing their tales. Conversation will certainly turn towards life with school aged kids. I can be part of the Mom to School Aged Kid Club. Who knows, maybe I'll some day even be a part of the other club too.
This having given birth club just gets old. Everyone that I am surrounded by is in this club. They always seem to talk about it to. Get a group of moms together and sooner or later the conversation turns to how they felt during pregnancy, how long they were in labor, birth stories, and breastfeeding. Want to hear my birth story? The day DS1 was born, I had coffee with a friend and found out 6 weeks later that he had been born. I have absolutely no idea what I was doing the day DS2 was born and another 6 weeks went by before I knew about him too. I never had morning sickness. I never had pregnancy brain. I never had my water break. I never breastfed (although I have had lots and lots of dreams about breastfeeding my kids). I have never been in The Club.
I never say anything either. I do like to hear the stories my friends have to tell. I like to absorb the information in hopes that maybe some day it may be of use to me. I also secretly know that the story about how my kids came to me is way more complex, original, and fascinating than any of their stories. I am just saying it gets old. Sometimes I just want to yell out, "Seriously! Are we talking about THIS again?!?! Since the beginning of time people have given birth and you still think your story is sooooo amazing that we all want to hear about it??" Of course, if I ever give birth, everyone is going to hear the story over and over again and like it, dammit.
I am just waiting it out though. Someday all my friends will be done with their childbearing days and the conversation will shift away from constantly rehashing their tales. Conversation will certainly turn towards life with school aged kids. I can be part of the Mom to School Aged Kid Club. Who knows, maybe I'll some day even be a part of the other club too.
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